3 ways to control your mindset

Hey! So I just want to talk about a few things that can totally help you own your mindset. It wasn’t until I started my friendship with the blogging community that I even thought about someones mindset. There are so many women joining forces empowering eachother right now, and it is amazing! So I was inspired and started to become more self aware. I think that making lifestyle changes is a huge commitment and if you are going to work on your mind, you need to have a meeting with your brain and make sure she is going to be open to this change… think of it like starting a diet! I made a few changes to my lifestyle about 2 months ago, and I am excited to tell you just how I managed to own my mindset after a very serious battle with PPD.  I had PPD and have been better for about 6 months. During the time of my PPD I was super negative. It was ruining me… Think of your mind like a garden, the more we nurture it, the more beautiful it will become… I just made that one up guys, lol. Anyways, Im serious. I needed to regain control of my life, so I made the commitment and followed through.

The first way you can manipulate your mindset is through self talk. Surprise, you could have guessed, I know. Self talk is so important! So fucking important. I recently started controlling my reactions through telling myself how I should react. My kids are fighting, I am across the house, my knee jerk reaction is always scream at the top of my lungs and scare the hell out of them so they immediately stop… well now that’s impulsive, and unproductive… so here is what I do after realizing they are misbehaving. I announce I am on my way (depending on the level of the siblings cry depends if I yell other choice words while I am sprinting across the house, not to complain but this is a downside of having a big house) By the time I get to the kids I am ready to discipline and I told my self as many times as possible that I wont yell and that I am able to do fix the situation without loosing my shit, because they have lost theirs and I am the adult. I tell myself that my kids are fighting just like everyone elses are right now, and all that I need to do is tell them that its not acceptable and hold my ground on the punishment, whether it is time out in their room or a break at the kitchen table… I really don’t have to beat myself up over it past that. Should I repeat that. I really do not have to beat myself up over it past that moment… Moms, that means you dont have to tell yourself you are a bad mom for leaving them alone. You are not a bad mom for washing the dishes and expecting Blippi to entertain. This is life and this shit happens. Tell yourself that you are doing a good job! Pat yourself on the back for not loosing your shit, and for getting your kid to time out without them loosing theirs! Girl you need to praise yourself, whatever challenge you defeat you need to celebrate with yourself. DO that all day!

The second way you can manipulate your mindset is through self care! You have heard me talk about self care for years, if you have been here that long. If not, no worries you do not have to look far for a mention of self care on my blog. I am a huge advocate for self care. There are so many ways you can practice self care without getting out of budget. Sometimes I find peace and happiness by taking a long shower, or a bath. I enjoy grocery shopping alone so I consider that even to be self care. Self care can literally just be you taking a moment while sitting on the couch to be FULLY PRESENT, and thinking only positive thoughts, or reading a book.  I like to wear a face mask, whiten my teeth and spray tan myself once a week… I have these little self care rituals, some involve working out, making a yummy smoothie or protein shake, getting starbucks, or making time for my weekly pampering session.  Do what works for you, but just find moments through your day, and every week to practice self care by being fully present and think positive thoughts only during that time.

The third way that you can manipulate your mindset is to cut out the bullshit. I can be a bitch sometimes but usually its just my anxiety getting the best of me. For me I get anxiety when I don’t have a plan and when I am loosing control of a situation. I tend to get panicky so for me cutting the bullshit has alot to do with just letting go… Its fricken hard to just let go. Ya know, riding Kevin’s Harley has actually helped me learn to let go because I sit on the back and have no idea where we are and I don’t care. LOL! Bullshit comes in many forms, as you know! If you have to think if something is bullshit it probably is. mindless scrolling on social media= bullshit. excuses=bullshit toxic friends=bullshit.  If you are looking to own your mindset you need to take steps to make sure you are owning your time, your body and your mind. There are lots of empowering podcasts that you could listen to for more ways to own your mindset, its something that alot of boss babes are working on. It really is such a game changer in life.

I hope this post was not too earthy for you guys, it’s hard to talk about these topics for me so I would love your encouragement if you liked what you read. I really just started figuring out how to improve myself, but making these changes has transformed my life for the better.